Online Dating Do's and Don'ts: Advice from Men's Relationship Coaches
Are you ready to embark on a digital journey to find love?
In a world where swipes replace smiles and messages stand in for first encounters, online dating has become a modern-day adventure.
Don’t worry! You are not alone in this quest! Imagine having a skilled, experienced, and trusted guide by your side, a relationship coach who knows the ins and outs of the online dating world.
Let’s discover the secrets of successful online dating along with the dos and don’ts of the digital dating landscape, guided by the sage advice of a men’s relationship life coach.
Be Authentic with you Picture
Using edited/filtered selfies as the featured photo is the number one reason why perfectly dateable people struggle with online dating. Therefore, it is important to choose your photographs wisely. You should look relaxed and comfortable. No stern hard face looks, smiles only.
Try to use recent and genuine photos that represent who you are. You should be the only one in the photo, so no guys weekend out group shot. Please no locker room or gym pictures. Yes you look good and should be proud of your body, but not in this first picture.
The eyes are the window to your soul, so no sunglasses, let her see your steely blue or deep brown eyes.
If you're a uniformed man, we thank you for your service, but put on something casual so they can see you in your fun relaxed mode.
If you have a pet (must be your pet not your sister's cat), then yes please have a picture with you pet, showing that you have a soft side and can love something outside of yourself.
Choose the Right Dating Platform
Whether you are looking for a serious relationship or casual dating, there is an app or website tailored to your needs. Relationship coaches can help you research and select platforms that align with your dating goals.
Engage in Meaningful Conversations
When you match with someone, don’t send a generic greeting. “Hey Beautiful” Guys they know they are beautiful, don’t need to tell them. Instead start conversations with thoughtful questions or a prompt that shows you are genuinely interested in getting to know the person.
Be upfront with your intentions, be a man and let them know what you're looking for or interested in (minus the religion/politics/sex topics). Be a nice guy but also let them know what you would like to do.
Have a thoughtful response to the “I don’t care where we meet, whatever you want.”
Finding the right match may take time. Be patient and avoid settling for someone who doesn’t meet your values.
If you get lucky (no not that kind of lucky) and are able to go out on that first date please guys respond back to them within the hour telling them how much you enjoyed their company.
Mention a conversation or topic that they really got into and how much you appreciated that topic. Above all, less is better, don't start drooling all over yourself with a long never ending thankyou about how wonderful she is.
Avoid Negative Language
Negativity can be a significant turnoff for potential matches. Instead, focus on positive aspects of your life, interests, and what you are looking for in a partner.
Nothing overtly sexual in these conversations, no one likes to feel like a piece of meat to be used. No comments on their body that can be misinterpreted as sexual. The English language is huge, so take the time to respond with kind words and thoughts.
No politics, no religion in your initial conversations. These like any sexual comments will blast cold water on your chances for a first or second date. These conversations can happen much later in the dating timeline.
By keeping your language upbeat and optimistic, you can create a more inviting and attractive profile that will attract like-minded people.
Don’t Pretend to be Someone You Are Not
Being yourself is the first and foremost key to dating. If someone doesn't like who you are, don’t be afraid to let them go. You will be much happier with someone who accepts your whole self without complaining or compromising.
Don’t Neglect Self-Care
Don’t let the pursuit of love consume all your time and energy. Balance your dating efforts with activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. You should maintain a healthy self-care routine that boosts your confidence and ensures you are emotionally and mentally prepared for dating.
Some Red Flags To Watch Out
If someone is pressing for an immediate relationship or trying to speed up the pace more than you're comfortable with, it could be a sign of potential trouble. Remember that a healthy relationship sure does take time to develop.
If a person consistently dodges very personal questions or gives you vague answers, they might not be as genuine as they actually appear.
Requests for Money
Any request for financial help--BIG NO--particularly early in the conversation. Genuine individuals will respect your boundaries and won't ask for any financial assistance.
Don’t give your Cell phone number or email address if they ask for it immediately, there are ID theft creeps out looking for a guy like you. Create an email and Google Voice phone number (or similar) dating contact information that is not your primary. Protect yourself guys.
If you notice discrepancies in their stories or if they fail to remember things you've previously discussed, it could be a sign they aren't just being truthful.
Seek Guidance from a Professional Relationship Coach
If you are struggling with online dating or facing challenges in your love life, consider getting help from a highly experienced expert. These professionals offer personalized guidance and support to help you navigate the complexities of dating and build meaningful connections.
The right life and relationship coach can provide the following:
Breaks Negative Patterns
They help you identify and confront the negative patterns that might be causing issues in your relationships. Consequently, they will help you find new healthier ways to communicate effectively with your (potential) partner.
The experts help you gain access to their expertise and benefit from their personalized tips, strategies, and wisdom to enhance your dating life. This can boost your chances of finding meaningful connections and building successful relationships.
With their guidance, you can stay calm, composed, and resilient when facing challenges in your love life. They provide tools, including mindfulness practices, relaxation techniques, and effective communication strategies, to reduce your stress and promote a more positive dating experience.
When it comes to online dating, authenticity is always the key. It's sometimes tempting to present an embellished version of yourself to attract potential partners, but meaningful connections are definitely built on truth and sincerity. Be proud of who you are, quirks and all!
And keep in mind that the world of online dating is vast and varied. Don't let a handful of disappointing experiences discourage you. Remember, every 'NO' is one step closer to your 'YES.'
To get extra support, don’t hesitate to seek guidance from a relationship coach who specializes in offering the best relationship coach services.
Get in touch with D2 Coaching today for expert guidance and support!