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GUYS, HOW MANY TIMES HAVE YOU TRIED TO STOP?
Not sure where to turn or how to fix your situation?
How deep have you dug your own hole?
Take a quick self test.
If you answer yes "that's me" to more than 4 or 5 of these,
you might have a problem.
Be totally honest with yourself.
My Struggle - Feeding the WolfFeeding the bad wolf started when I was on the school playground in 6th grade. An adult magazine floated across on the wind, and of course those 6th grade boys caught it and passed it around. Later in my teens and 20s I started to develop two lives. An outward-facing life that family, friends, and co-workers knew and a compartmentalized life that sought relief and pressure from the stresses of everyday life. For decades, I kept feeding the evil wolf but kept him hidden in a compartmentalized life. I looked great on the outside, but I was losing a battle of wills inside. I thought I was all alone in this struggle and that no one else could ever understand what I was going through.
Hitting Rock BottomWhen I hit rock bottom, I told my wife everything about my compartmentalized life. I was sure our marriage was over and I would lose her, my family, and all my friends. The shame and guilt was unbearable. I felt alone and lost. As my life crashed around me, the only word I had to hang on to was "HOPE ." Hope in my recovery, hope for my marriage. Hope that my friends and family would not abandon me. Hope that my downward spiral had finally stopped and I could begin to live a life free from acting out.
Hope & RecoveryAfter starting counseling, a support group, and a 12 step program, things started to improve. I began to feed the good wolf way more than the evil one. During this time, I realized I had a huge "Trust" issue, and that lack of trust started with me really not trusting God, let alone anyone else in my life. This lack of trust forced me to try to control everything. When anything went wrong, my evil wolf demanded to be fed. I am not perfect, nor will I ever be, but I am now a much better man, husband, and father than I have ever been before. My marriage is stronger than it ever has been before. My relationships are stronger than ever before. I am a better man than ever before. By the grace of God I am a recovering addict.
You are not aloneGuys sometime for us the guilt and shame can be crushing. If you’re like a lot of guys, you have been told your whole life to be a man, grow up, just do it, just stop it, get’er done, and even just grow a pair. However, those festering doubts in your brain are holding you back. Let's find your way out. You are not alone and other guys have been able to work through their shame and guilt, and have a better life. Lets talk and know that you are not alone. For Teens, lets come up with some plans and actions to keep that evil wolf at bay. For couples, it was a struggle, but we got through it. Lets come up with some plan and actions to help you improve your relationship. Men, I really want you to have every opportunity to become a healthy male and live your best life. Become a man of integrity.
HOW OFTEN HAVE YOU TRIED
How often have you tried to stop doing that thing that relieves the stress in your life, but you can't quit.
You know what I am talking about. That thing you do to forget about your pain and stress for a bit. It could be video games, food, alcohol, eating, pornography, binge watching a favorite show, or any other acting out that relieves your stress.
If you don't do this thing to relax and relive the stress, you get irritable, angry, can't sleep or depressed
However, when you are done and look back; sometimes there is shame, guilt or that a feeling you just waisted time. If anyone knew or found out, it would be embarrassing. You even told yourself, "This is the last time, I promise."
Remember this definition of insanity? It is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
My shelves are full of books on how to quit negative self-soothing habits. I promised myself 1000+ times I'd quit this habit. But I never did. If you asked me why I continue those self-soothing habits, I would say, "I don't know."
WHY TALK TO DARRIN -
SEE MY STORY
Heal from past wounds and re-build your future. With life coaching, you'll enable yourself to become a man of character, a man of integrity.
When you stop focusing on obstacles, you'll find the path forward smoother and more inviting. I'll help you create the solutions that are right for your situation. Together, everything is possible.
‘To thine own self be true’ act 1 scene 3 of Shakespeare’s play, Hamlet.